I was speaking to my friend, Jules last week and we were on a frantic catching-up session. She recently had a baby and her amazing husband, who is fully tattooed but is in its core the nicest guy you'll meet, took it upon himself to buy what he calls a "reno-home" for them in the outskirts of London.
My friend is a great story-teller, she speaks and I'm transported to the places she visits. I could tell she was not gladly surprise about her husband's purchase but as we spoke she started telling me how the house is challenging her more in an emotional sense than a physical one. She said to me... "I don't want to be that kind of woman that always looks at others and craves to be them. I don't want to be a bundle on unmet expectations either."
I digress.
You know how in movies when a character hears those words that cave deep into its soul, the whole scenery starts shrinking and blurring - and by the end of the last word you can only see the mouth of the person speaking?
That's exactly how I felt, her words echoed in my head and made my stomach ache a little. Holy Swear word!, I said - The woman had given me an answer to all of my recent pondering questions. Why are people stealing my work? Why can't I get myself to blog like before? Why am I so tired lately? Why was that person so unappreciated of my efforts? - The answers is because I'm a bundle of unmet expectations. All I could think about that day was how not to be that person, how to be OKAY and eventually FINE with all these things around me.
Simple, by being my own hero - stop expecting people to not copy my art just committing to never copying some else's (and send the the according fine of course). To be with others as I expect them to be with me but not expect anything in return. I know it's easy to say and hard to make so I want to remember this lesson. I made this print and it's up on my board. Be my own hero, checked!
Are you a bundle of unmet expectations? or are you your own hero?
Are you a bundle of unmet expectations? or are you your own hero?
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Where did you take that picture? I love it. Being your own hero is a good way to be.
ReplyDeleteThanks Da :) emailing you.
Deletelately {unfortunately} i'm the latter. but really, really trying to get out of that state of mind.
ReplyDeletep.s. i just love the term "unmet expectations"... that describes this state of mind that i so often find myself in just perfectly. (thank you for posting this)
ReplyDeleteMy pleasure, Torrie. I always love your posts.
DeleteThis post is amazing, and reminds me of the very posts you've written in the past. Will I still be happy if you're my hero?
ReplyDeleteMe? Well... I... haha! This made me smile big time. Thanks so much, Lena. It is hard to go back to that place but I'm getting there. I want to open up again just don't know how.
DeleteI'm trying to be my own hero -- frankly, I have no one else who can be it for me. I think we can only control what we do and try to set a good example for others. You will have the world, Ana. Stay positive and keep being a hero for yourself and for others.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Brandi! I am trying to be just that for your same reasons. xx
DeleteYour work, blog, and posts are amazing! Thank you for being raw and honest. I have a few of your prints in my office and they are so powerful and encouraging. You do a wonderful job exhorting others and I hope you know you are appreciated in Alaska-land. :)
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, Jene! Your words mean the world to me. I LOVE Alaska! Have the loveliest Easter.
DeleteI love this poster but it won't let me download it :(
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